Aberdein Considine: Family Law team

How to have a healthy separation

Deciding to separate isn’t easy. It’s a time of stress and anxiety. However, there are ways of managing separation that can help the transition go more smoothly. 

Firstly, don’t make any rash decisions. If you’re not certain that your relationship has broken down irretrievably, consider counselling.  

It is always advisable to take advice from a specialist family lawyer before
separating so that you have a clear understanding of your legal rights and
obligations. They will help you identify your priorities, such as payment of
household bills and supporting children financially. You should not make any significant changes to your day to day living or financial arrangements, dispose of any assets or sign any legal documents without first taking legal advice. Take some breathing space to think about your family’s long-term needs and interests.  

There are many approaches to separation including Collaborative Family Law, Mediation, Arbitration and traditional negotiation.  Family law specialists are committed to problem solving and constructive dispute resolution which can lead to a far better outcome for you and your family.

Financial agreements will have an impact for years to come, so it is crucial that you make informed decisions after careful consideration with your lawyer and financial adviser.

Separation can be traumatic and confusing for children. Their welfare must be prioritised and they should be shielded from conflict. Remain courteous and communicate well with your partner for their sake. Do not badmouth your partner to anyone and don’t send inflammatory messages on social media or email as these can be used against you.  

Separation will inevitably be challenging but following these tips may assist in achieving a healthier separation.