It is our final My Motherhood of the year, and we’re incredibly proud to share this poignant insight
from Beverley Tricker. The PR pro also runs her own bridal boutique, Tricker Bridal, and adopted her
daughter when she was six-years-old. Here she reflects on an incredible journey into motherhood.
I’m no stranger to adoption, as my brother and I know what a marvellous life you can have when you are brought up by parents who adopted us as babies. Is bringing up an adopted child who has lived six traumatic years easy? No, but then nor is bringing up your own baby and none of us know what challenges lie ahead at that point. Can you love an adopted child as much as your own? Without doubt! Working in PR at the time, my daily life was already spinning plates, so adding in another factor wasn’t as hard as it seemed. Being single, I certainly could never have managed without the utterly amazing support from my parents, who gave my daughter another element which had been missing from her life – loving grandparents. I firmly believe you can remain focussed, energetic and ambitious; it’s not the prerogative of the childless woman! My daughter, from the shakiest of starts in life, now has an amazing career as an underwriter with an international firm. I was so proud that she had the ambition to do this, and the resilience to move to London at the age of 21. Bridal appointments are a reflection of all life – and I see all sorts of relationships. The brides and mums who stay with me are those where the mum is so supportive. I also see many brides who have lost their mums and are really feeling the loss of their presence at such a key point in their life. I think I become more ‘mum like’ at these appointments. And, I do always make sure that I ask them – in the fitting room away from their entourage – to take a long look and ask herself what would my mum have thought of this dress. I feel it brings a bit of their mum to the day.